Having a child majorly rocked our marriage boat. We will be the first ones to say this to your face anytime if you need a reality check. And if a baby didn't rock your marriage boat...yea I don't know how that's possible 🤔. My husband and I have been together seven years, and last week we celebrated four years of marriage. Ok we didn't really "celebrate" pre-baby style, but in any case, it was great. Having a baby really puts your marriage to the test. And we "failed" many times. We've experienced anger, disappointment, resentment, frustration, tempers. I mean how can you not when an alien has just invaded your life and you're sleep deprived? But you know what always trumped all of these negative experiences and feelings? LOVE (and commitment to making it work). A deep set love that you can't shake, an unbreakable friendship that our relationship was built upon, and the constant desire to want to make things better. Something that has always stayed true for us is we know how important our marriage is to our family unit and child. We invest in our marriage. We book babysitters, we go on dates, we take trips together, we have long conversations (sometimes heated). We most recently started paying more attention to each other's "love language" and have booked a standing weekly "love language" meeting on our calendars. It's always going to look different--whether we discuss something specific, exercise together, go out to eat, see a movie. It's about being together, paying attention to what one another needs, and loving on each other. What are your favorite tools/tips for a successful marriage? PS Asher saw this picture and asked if we were playing a game and eating food 😂.
"When people are in pain, they need a button." You can push it anytime to know you have support and that you are in control. I will be your extra button. Press it anytime. As in, email me (email@example.com) anytime you're feeling stressed out as a new mom, anxious, down, ashamed, mom guilt, or don't know who to turn to. Whatever it is, I am here as a friend and someone who understands (NOT as a therapist, as I am not qualified to give any sort of professional advice). You are not alone, I am here for you. Inspired by @sherylsandberg of @facebook and author of @optionb--more from the book below.
Yesterday, this sweet, little, innocent soul put two legos together and told me it was his "gun shooter" -- "to keep people away." I was in shock. I was heartbroken. He's only three. Where did he learn this from, and why? It was a reminder that I can't always protect him from this world. That's all I want to do--keep him happy, safe, loved, and warm. I don't want him to see pain, hatred, suffering. But, I can't control everything and the reality is that he will experience it all. So, I'm committed to prepare him, educate him, empower him, support him, lead him. He's obviously learning and absorbing from everyone and everything around him. I promise to show him how to be happy, to be loved, to use his voice, to do the right thing, to let light in, to defend himself and others, and to love all. "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that." -Martin Luther King, Jr. 📷: @heathergallagher.photography
[GIVEAWAY CLOSED] Sometimes we need a little reminder of how special and amazing we are. Or we need a reminder to take a deep breath, to be present, and to stay on track. We are teaming up with @lumenkind to giveaway a pack of Mindful Marks. These are GORGEOUS, small daily reminders to stay true to yourself and to follow through with your intentions. ENTER TO WIN: 1) Comment below with an intention/goal you have set for 2018. 2) Tag a lady you love. Winner will be selected on 1/19. 📷 @sarah.c.thomas of @belongmag
I often get asked questions and advice from fellow mamas. It's truly an honor. And anything that is not experiential based, I always provide facts and research. Something I'm asked often, and see often on message boards, is when to introduce solids to your baby. There have been new studies and updated recommendations that way too many pediatricians are not up to date on yet (sadly). Please spread the word to fellow mamas that it is recommended to wait AT LEAST until 6 months before introducing solids. Below are just a few of the organizations that recommend that all babies be exclusively breastfed (no cereal, juice or any other foods) for the first 6 months of life (not the first 4-6 months): . •World Health Organization •UNICEF •American Academy of Pediatrics •American Academy of Family Physicians •Australian National Health and Medical Research Council •Health Canada THANK YOU! 👅
I was really lonely as a new mom. And on paper this shouldn't have been the case as I was a mom in my hometown, knew a ton of people, and had great friends. But being home alone with baby day after day and going through these major life changes on my own, I was LONELY. I always tell the joke that motherhood made me a nicer person (I mean duh, did you read my last post? 🤗). Prior to baby, walking down the street, I kept to myself--sunglasses on, hat kept low, headphones on. With baby in tow, I became that lady who was like "Hi! Hello! I'm a mom too! How old is your babe? What area of town do you live in?" When I passed other new moms at the park or grocery store, I often wondered if they felt how I did--lonely, exhausted, desperate. And I often acted on it, saying "hello" and making new friends. I am so glad I did this, which was really out of my comfort zone. And that's where this whole love for "hello" comes from for me. Community, girlfriends, and a support system is everything and totally changed my life as a new mom. And it all starts with a simple "hello." Don't be afraid to be the first to say it. If the person on the other end doesn't reciprocate, who cares, at least you tried. But what if she does? What if she's just like you and becomes part of the tribe you never really realized you needed? Game changer I tell you. #newmom #momfriends #sayhello
Ever since becoming a mother, I do this weird thing. Whenever I come across someone, be the homeless man on the street, the not-so-nice woman checking me out at the grocery store, or a new friend, I picture them as a baby and think about their own mother. What was their life like then? I think about how loved they were as a baby, and how much work their mother put in. Or maybe that's not the story. Maybe their mother went through a million hardships and that little baby wasn't taken care of or loved in the way he or she deserved. Maybe the mom just couldn't do it, or maybe she was heartbroken the entire time. I go through this a million times, wondering about the lives of others. Without knowing what others are walking through on a daily basis, it's our job to treat EVERYONE with respect, love, joy, and appreciation. Let's go above and beyond our duty to treat others the way we want to be treated. Let's be positive to others, ALWAYS. These women are mothers, sisters, daughters, friends, aunts, grandmothers. They either belong to us, or they belong to other people who care about them deeply and never want to see them get hurt. These women are everything to us and they make the world go round. #oprah2020 #timesup #goldenglobes
[After giving birth, what core work can I do?] Similar to during core work during pregnancy, anything that looks like a crunch or sit up can cause strain to the abdomen and high pressures at the pelvic floor and therefore, should be avoided. For the first six weeks postpartum, you should also avoid anything that requires elevated hips such as bridges.⠀ ⠀ Get checked by a provider for a diastasis recti before returning to core strengthening, and see a physical therapist if you want to return to higher-level workouts, similar to those performed prior to pregnancy.⠀ ⠀ -Christina McGee of Sullivan Physical Therapy for hellomytribe.com
It's easy to get caught up thinking others are living perfect lives. Instagram will do that to you. And then we actually read and learn that there's more to the story and that we aren't the only ones struggling. "I am currently writing a book about pregnancy, childbirth and everything your mother failed to mention. It's also an insight into hospital vs home birth. I had a jaw dropping chain of events occur to me during my home birth and post. It was 6 months of living hell. The few people that have heard my story have never heard anything like it, I could have sued multiple people, but I chose to heal through the humour I found in writing." Read @nictrunfio's full interview on @mothermusemag. Mamas, we need to remember that we are #notalone. And we need to be thankful to those sharing their stories, helping to normalize all that motherhood is, not just the pretty stuff.
2017 has been quite a year. Lots of ups and downs. Through it all, I came out stronger (and maybe a little more tired 😂) and so did Tribe. I learned a lot about myself and where I want this business to go. My dream is a big one. I want to have a positive impact on women all over the country (maybe even the world?!). I want women to have MORE as they step into the role of mother: more resources, more strength, more support, more love, more understanding. I have taken a million LEAPS to get to where Tribe is now. I'm so proud of what has happened so far with all of you, and excited to continue leaping. Some fun recaps of this year. We had 1,600 visits across our Austin programs--workshops, classes, and pre/postnatal series and we had 17,000 visitors and 50,000 page views on hellomytribe.com since launching in March. I honestly have no idea if these are "good" numbers since online is new to me, but these numbers matter to me. I am so incredibly proud of the work we have done and the women we have reached. Now, time to continue spreading our mission and message. HUGE thanks to our instructors, ambassadors, contributors, team, readers, members, partners, and program attendees. 2018, here we come! P.S. Do me a favor and scroll through the love ❤️. xoxo, alex
Our 2018 dinner schedule is here for Austin mamas! Interested in joining us? Your $20 monthly community membership includes these dinners, benefits, and other gatherings. But what's more important that you can't put a dollar amount on? The friendships and support automatically built in. Just ask any of our mamas! And of course DM us if you want to join/have any questions. P.S. We've heard from mamas in South Shore, Dallas, Houston, Phoenix, Brooklyn, San Antonio, and South Coast Rhode Island/Connecticut about EXPANDING our community. We aren't any where close to this happening, but how amazing would that be?! Love the idea of connecting and helping more and more women on their motherhood journey.
Tip for building your tribe as a new mom: find a group of moms that your schedule can count on. This is actually first more about the place than the people, but they come hand-in-hand. This is your weekly postnatal yoga, mommy & me classes, mom groups, baby-friendly workouts. You can count on this place to get out of your house every single week and go somewhere safe and welcoming. Plus, you'll most likely meet other amazing ladies. Want to join our in-person community or one of our workout group?! DM us!
Austin mamas, our next 4-Week Prenatal/Postpartum Wellness Series is on the calendar from 1/7-2/1 and ready for sign ups! Two options: Sunday's at 9:15am for $40 (meets 4 times) and Tuesday's/Thursdays at 10:30 for $80 (meets 8 times). Non-mobile babies welcome. All details including Southwest Austin location on hellomytribe.com, link in profile. SPREAD THE WORD! xoxo 📷: @heathergallagher.photography
The amazing conversation around my postpartum depression post reminded me of a chat I had with a therapist. I was distraught over a relationship with a family member. The therapist reminded me that my feelings meant that I cared. If I didn't care deeply about the family member and our relationship, I wouldn't have been so upset by it all. After my post, a friend texted "strange how these feelings aren’t as deep for other components of our lives that make us who we are (e.g. career, friendship, lovers)." So connecting all of the dots, my guess is you care about your role as mother MOST. Maybe these feelings of depression, anxiety, worry, stress, angst don't have anything to do with you not being cut out for motherhood, or being a bad mom, and maybe they don't even deserve you feeling guilty about them. It's time that we look at these feelings as a positive. Yes, I know they are hard and suck. But they are 100% proof that you DO love your children, that you ARE cut out for motherhood, that you want to be the best mother possible, and that you ARE a damn good one. Say it with me mamas, I AM A DAMN GOOD MOTHER.
GIVEAWAY CLOSED (nationwide). These three women and their company changed my life. My husband and I had switched over to using @branchbasics before having babies--cleaning, laundry, hand wash, body/face wash. My husband had almost immediate relief from debilitating pain and skin issues (yes chemicals are rude, nasty, and in way too many everyday products). And when pregnant, my husband and I called on our friends Allison, Kelly, and Marilee (founders) to help us take a few more steps. I had read that "two separate studies conducted in 2004 and 2008 by the Environmental Working Group (EWG) found that the umbilical cord blood taken from 10 newborn babies contained 200-plus environmental toxins — that's before they've taken more than their first gasp of air or had their first sip of breast milk." I was shocked. I know I cannot fix all of the issues my family will face and that it is not possible to live a perfect life. But my husband and I agreed that we wanted our home to be our safe place--truly a place to escape from toxins and chemicals. And that's what we did with @branchbasics leading us. They are so much more than a cleaning product. It's a lifestyle. With help from BB, we made some big changes--we no longer keep lamps plugged in next to our beds, we no longer sleep with phones plugged in next to our beds, our phones go on airplane every single night in a separate room, we got a hepa sealed vacuum, we removed anything that had "fragrance" in it, and so much more. I am so excited for @branchbasics and the team to change your life like they did mine. Enter to win a Starter Kit + Oxygen Boost. 1) like this post 2) follow @hellomytribe and @branchbasics 3) tag two friends Winner will be selected 12/27. P.S. we are so excited to have Branch Basics contribute to our new Food + Function section on hellomytribe.com 👅